If you take marriage non-seriously, then you can be free. If you take it seriously, then freedom is impossible. Take marriage just as a game -- it is a game. Have a little sense of humor, that it is a role you are playing on the stage of life; but it is not something that belongs to existence or has any reality -- it is a fiction.

But people are so stupid that they even start taking fiction for reality. I have seen people reading fiction with tears in their eyes, because in the fiction things are going so tragically. It is a very good device in the movies that they put the lights off, so everybody can enjoy the movie, laugh, cry, be sad, be happy.

If there was light it would be a little difficult -- what will others think? And they know perfectly well that the screen is empty -- there is nobody; it is just a projected picture. But they forget it completely.

And the same has happened with our lives. Many things which are simply to be taken humorously, we take so seriously -- and from that seriousness begins our problem.

In the first place, why should you get married? You love someone, live with someone -- it is part of your basic rights. You can live with someone, you can love someone.

Marriage is not something that happens in heaven, it happens here, through the crafty priests. But if you want to join the game with society and don't want to stand alone and aloof, you make it clear to your wife or to your husband that this marriage is just a game:

"Never take it seriously. I will remain as independent as I was before marriage, and you will remain as independent as you were before marriage. Neither I am going to interfere in your life, nor are you going to interfere in my life; we will live as two friends together, sharing our joys, sharing our freedom -- but not becoming a burden on each other.

And any moment we feel that the spring has passed, the honeymoon is over, we will be sincere enough not to go on pretending, but to say to each other that we loved much -- and we will remain grateful to each other forever, and the days of love will haunt us in our memories, in our dreams, as golden -- but the spring is over.

Our paths have come to a point, where although it is sad, we have to part, because now, living together is not a sign of love. If I love you, I will leave you the moment I see my love has become a misery to you. If you love me, you will leave me the moment you see that your love is creating an imprisonment for me."

Love is the highest value in life: It should not be reduced to stupid rituals. And love and freedom go together -- you cannot choose one and leave the other. A man who knows freedom is full of love, and a man who knows love is always willing to give freedom.

If you cannot give freedom to the person you love, to whom can you give freedom? Giving freedom is nothing but trusting. Freedom is an expression of love.

So whether you are married or not, remember, all marriages are fake -- just social conveniences. Their purpose is not to imprison you and bind you to each other; their purpose is to help you to grow with each other. But growth needs freedom; and in the past, all the cultures have forgotten that without freedom, love dies.

You see a bird on the wing in the sun, in the sky, and it looks so beautiful. Attracted by its beauty, you can catch the bird and put it in a golden cage.

Do you think it is the same bird? Superficially, yes, it is the same bird who was flying in the sky; but deep down it is not the same bird -- because where is its sky, where is its freedom?

This golden cage may be valuable to you; it is not valuable to the bird. For the bird, to be free in the sky is the only valuable thing in life. And the same is true about human beings.

　　「我愿意」这句话对美国人而言具有重大意义，它甚至可以改变你的生命，特別是当你在自己的婚礼上说出这句话时，在婚礼中所发的誓言就如同签订契约一样，美国人并不是真把婚姻当作商业交易，但是，结婚确实是件严肃的事情。 

　　It all begins with engagement. Traditionally, a young man asks the father of his sweetheart for permission to marry her. If the father agrees, the man later proposes to her. Often he tries to surprise her by "popping the question" in a romantic way. 

　　结婚是从订婚开始，在传统上，年轻人会请求他的女朋友的父亲允许他娶她，如果女方的父亲答应，之后方可向女方求婚。通常男方会试着以罗曼蒂克的方式「提出这个问题」以带给女方惊喜。 

　　Sometimes the couple just decides together that the time is right to get married. The man usually gives his fiancée a diamond ring as a symbol of their engagement. They may be engaged for weeks, months or even years. As the big day approaches, bridal showers and bachelor’s parties provide many useful gifts. Today many couples also receive counseling during engagement. This prepares them for the challenges of married life. 

　　有时候双方会觉得现在结婚正是时候，于是男方通常会送女方钻戒做为互订终身的象征。他们可能订婚几个星期、几个月，甚至几年，当大喜的日子接近时，贺礼赠送会和单身汉俱乐部都会赠送许多实用的礼物。今天有许多订婚的男女在订婚期间接受咨询服务，这是为了让他们有准备接受婚姻生活的挑战。 

　　At last it’s time for the wedding. Although most weddings follow long-held traditions, there’s still room for American individualism. For example, the usual place for a wedding is in a church. But some people get married outdoors in a scenic spot. A few even have the ceremony while skydiving or riding on horseback! The couple may invite hundreds of people or just a few close friends. They choose their own style of colors, decorations and music during the ceremony. But some things rarely change. The bride usually wears a beautiful, long white wedding dress. She traditionally wears "something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue." The groom wears a formal suit or tuxedo. Several close friends participate in the ceremony as attendants, including the best man and the maid of honor. 

　　最后就是婚礼了，虽然大多的婚礼仍沿袭长久以来的传统，但是美国人的个人主义仍有其空间，例如，通常婚礼的地点是在教堂，但是有些人却是到戶外的风景区结婚，有些人甚至是跳伞或骑马结婚！双方可能邀请上百人或者只是一些熟朋友，婚礼的顏色风格，布置和音乐都由他们自己决定，但有些事是不太会变的；新娘通常都穿著美丽的白色结婚礼服，按照传统她必须穿的衣服上包括了：一些旧的，一些新的，一些借来的，及一些蓝色的东西。新郎则穿着正式的西装或燕尾晚礼服，几位熟朋友参加婚礼并协助帮忙，包括了伴郎和伴娘。 

　　As the ceremony begins, the groom and his attendants stand with the minister, facing the audience. Music signals the entrance of the bride’s attendants, followed by the beautiful bride. Nervously, the young couple repeats their vows. Traditionally, they promise to love each other "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health." But sometimes the couple has composed their own vows. They give each other a gold ring to symbolize their marriage commitment. Finally the minister announces the big moment: "I now pronounce you man and wife. You may kiss your bride!" 

　　当典礼开始时，新郎和伴郎和牧师站在一起，面对观众，音乐一起，表示伴娘入场，后面就跟着美丽的新娘。年轻的男女双方紧张地跟着说出他们的誓言，传统上而言，他们会承诺要彼此相爱，「不论好、坏、贫、富、生病时或健康时」，但是有时候，他们也可能自己编一套自己的誓言，他们互赠金戒指以此表示结婚的承诺，最后牧师宣布这重大的时刻：「我现在宣布你们成为夫妻，你可以亲吻你的新娘！」 

　　At the wedding reception, the bride and groom greet their guests. Then they cut the wedding cake and feed each other a bite. Guests mingle while enjoying cake, punch and other treats. Later the bride throws her bouquet of flowers to a group of single girls. Tradition says that the one who catches the bouquet will be the next to marry. During the reception, playful friends "decorate" the couple’s car with tissue paper, tin cans and a "Just Married" sign. When the reception is over, the newlyweds run to their "decorated" car and speed off. Many couples take a honeymoon, a one- to two-week vacation trip, to celebrate their new marriage. 

　　在结婚宴会上，新娘新郎向宾客问候．然后切结婚蛋糕并互相喂对方一口。宾客们在享受蛋糕、饮料及其他的食物时就混在一起交谈。之后新娘将捧花投向一群单身女孩，传统说接到捧花的女孩会成为下一位新娘。在婚宴上，爱闹的朋友用面纸、铝罐和「新婚」标志「装饰」礼车，宴会结束后，新婚的小俩口就跑向他们「装饰完成」的礼车，迅速地离开，许多夫妻会去渡蜜月，就是一至二星期的假期以庆祝他们的新婚。 

　　Almost every culture has rituals to signal a change in one’s life. Marriage is one of the most basic life changes for people of all cultures. So it’s no surprise to find many traditions about getting married . . . even in America. Yet each couple follows the traditions in a way that is uniquely their own. 

　　几乎每一种文化都有仪式来表示一个人生命中的改变。结婚对于所有文化的人而言是一生中最重要的大事之一，所以会有这么多婚礼的习俗就不足为奇了，美国也不例外。然而每对新人都以自己认为独特的方式来跟随传统。

In a university commencement address several years ago, Brian Dyson, CEO of Coca Cola Enterprises, spoke of the relation of work to one’s other commitments:

Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them work, family, health, friends and spirit and you’re keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.

But the other four balls family, health, friends and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life. How?

• Don’t undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.
• Don’t set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.
• Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as they would be your life, for without them, life is meaningless.
• Don’t let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live ALL the days of your life.
• Don’t give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
• Don’t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is this fragile thread that binds us to each together.
• Don’t be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.
• Don’t shut love out of your life by saying it’s impossible to find. The quickest way to receive love is to give it; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.
• Don’t run through life so fast that you forget not only where you’ve been, but also where you are going.
• Don’t forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.
• Don’t be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.
• Don’t use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved.

Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery and Today is a gift: that’s why we call it ‘The Present’.

The darkness of her skin
does not affect the diverse beauty of her face
or the beauty of her soul.
I hold her close,
comforting
wishing I could remove the pain
but I cannot understand the sorrow she knows.
The heartless gestures of a bigoted man...

Though we try to ignore our ethnicity,
neither can ignore the hate that surrounds us.
The words of one man, so harsh,
have opened her eyes. She suddenly sees me as
"one of them."
She pulls away from me,
still sobbing.
I wish that we could be the same.
But we are not.
And the beauty of diversity
has lost me a friend.

by Anna Tudor

When I was born, I was black. 
When I grow up, I am black. 
When I'm under the sun, I'm black. 
When I'm cold, I'm black. 
When I'm afraid, I'm black.
When I'm sick, I'm black
When I die, I'm still black 
 
you---white people, 
 
When you were born, you were pink. 
When you grow up, you become white. 
You're red under the sun 
You're blue when you're cold. 
You are yellow when you're afraid. 
You're green when you're sick. 
You're gray when you die. 
 
And you, call me "color"?

Don't judge a life by one difficult season.

There was a man who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn to not judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away.

The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall.

When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen.

The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted. The second son said no - it was covered with green buds and full of promise.

The third son disagreed, he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen.

The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfillment.

The man then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they had each seen but one season in the tree's life.
He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are - and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life - can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.

If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, fulfillment of your fall. Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest.

一棵树的四季
　　译/何朝阳

　　不要只在某人某段艰难的岁月里去判断他的一生。

　　从前，一个父亲有4个儿子。他希望儿子们能学会凡事勿匆下结论，于是轮番派遣他们到很远的地方去寻一棵梨树。

　　大儿子是冬天去的，二儿子春天启程，老三去时已是炎热的夏季，老么于金秋时节踏上了征程。

　　待他们全都寻树归来以后，父亲把他们叫到一起，听他们各自描述自己的所见。

　　大儿子数落说大树枝弯干斜，很难看。二儿子连忙否认，说树上发满嫩绿的新芽，生机盎然。

　　老三不同意了，树上明明开满鲜花，吐露芬芳，漂亮极了。

　　他们的说法实在让老么哑然，枝头上坠满的难道不是累累果实，在彰显生机与收获吗？

        父亲解释说，儿子们的说法都没错，因为他们看到的是大树一年四个季节里的不同情景。

        他告诉儿子们说，不能以一季来判断树，更不能以一时来判断人，因为人之本质——源自他们喜、乐、爱的根本——只有在其生之了结时，才可盖棺论定。

　　倘若你在冬季就已放弃，那无疑会错过春季的生机、夏季的美丽和秋季的收益。勿为一季的痛苦而破坏了所有的欢乐。

GRACE  RHYS—Novelist and essayist：Mary Dominic (1898),  The Wooing of Sheila (1901),  The Bride (1909),  Five Beads on a String (essays) (1907), etc.
格雷斯•里斯，小说家和随笔作家。著有《玛丽•多明尼克》 (1898) ，《希拉的追求》(1901)，《新娘》(1909)和《一根线上的五颗珠子》（随笔）(1907)等。

No one understands the nature of love; it is like a bird of heaven that sings a strange language. It lights down among us, coming from whence we know not, going we know not how or when, striking out wild notes of music that make even fatigued and heavy hearts to throb and give back a tone of courage.
没有人知道爱的本质是什么，它就象天堂里的鸟，吟唱着陌生的语言。它用光辉普照我们，它来无影、去无踪，它敲击出狂野的音乐，弹拨于疲惫、沉重的心灵，呼唤出勇敢的乐音。

The sorts and kinds of love are infinite in number, infinite as the days of the years of time. Each one of us is capable of many and various loves. We cannot love two creatures, not two dogs, with the same love. To each of those whom we love we offer a gem of different colour and value;—to the unknown Master of the heavens, ah! who shall tell of what sort is the love we offer to Him? Yet in this love, too (which is natural worship), we discover the same vibrational atmosphere that invades the soul of all lovers.
爱之多样，如一年之中的日日天天。我们每个人都具有各种不同的爱之能力，我们不会以同一种方式去爱恋两个人、两条狗。对每一位我们钟爱的人，我们奉献的是色彩不同、价值各异的宝石。对天国神秘的主，谁能说清我们奉献的是什么样的一种爱？然而，在这爱恋（这自然崇拜）之中，我们发现，侵入所有爱者心灵的，是相同的震颤。

I doubt we shall not get much nearer to the nature of love by mere talking. Intellectual statements are of little use. God does not make intellectual statements, He creates. We have to find our way about in the vast medley of created things that life spreads out around us, and pick up what bits of knowledge we can as we make our way along.
我不信我们的讨论探讨不出爱之真谛。理性陈述常苍白无力，上帝不作理性陈述，上帝创造！我们要在生活展现给我们的无数繁杂的创造物之中，找到自己的方式，并在前行的过程中收集一点一滴的知识。

Let me choose five images that will give an idea of what the awaking of this new life means.
我选择5个意象来描画这一新生活之复苏意味着什么。

I. Shall we not say that the creature without love is like the lamp unlit? There it is, and no one needs it. But touch it with flame, and it trembles and glows and becomes the centre of the room where it stands. Everything that falls under its rays is new-gilt. So does the lover see all natural things quite new.
首先，我以为，无爱的生灵，就如置放在一旁尚未点燃的灯，没有人需要它。一经火焰点燃，它摇曳，它闪光，它成了屋里的中心。在它的照耀下，一切都似乎重新镀了一层金。正因为此，在拥有爱的人眼的里，世界全是新的。

II. Or take the image of the withering plant that is dying of drought. The sun’s rays have parched it; the roots have searched and searched for moisture in a soil that grows every day harder and drier. The plant wilts and hangs its head; it is fainting and ready to die, when down comes the rain in a murmuring multitude of round scented drops. the purest thing alive, a distilled essence, necessary to life. Under that baptism the plant lifts itself up; it drinks and rejoices. In the night it renews its strength; in the morning the heat it has had from the sun, reinforced by the rain, bursts out into coloured flowers. So I have known a man battered by hard life and the excess of his own passions: I have seen love come to such a man and take him up and cleanse him and set him on his feet; and from him has burst forth a flood of colour and splendour—creative work that now lends its fiery stimulus to thousands.
其次，无爱的生灵就如即将死于干旱的枯萎的植物。太阳的光烧烤着它，植物的根在日益坚硬、干枯的土壤里寻觅养分。植物枯萎了，耷拉下脑袋。就在它晕眩之际、快要死去之时，突然普降喜雨，那是生命的甘霖。雨露滋润之下，植物昂起了头，它畅饮，它欢欣。夜晚，它恢复了体力。白天，它享受雨后强劲的阳光，绽放出五彩之花。我认识一位被艰难的生活和自己过度情感打磨的男人，我看到爱普降于他，扶持他，净化他，并支撑着他站立起来，使之迸发出壮丽与光彩----现在成了激励无数人的创新杰作。

III. Another image might be of the harp that stands by itself in golden aloofness. Then come the beautiful arms, the curving fingers that pluck at the strings, and the air is filled with melody; the harp begins to live, thrilling and rejoicing. down to its golden foot.
　第三，无爱的生灵就象一尊超然独立的竖琴，拨动琴弦的美丽手臂和纤纤玉指，让空气中弥漫起悦耳的旋律。竖琴顿时活了,开始振奋和欢欣，其情绪一直感染至琴基。

IV. Or picture the unlighted house, empty at fall of night. The windows are dark; the door shut; the clean wind goes about and about it, and cannot find an entrance. The dull heavy air is faint within; it longs to be reunited to the wind of the world outside. Then comes the woman with the key, and in she steps; the windows are opened, the imprisoned air rushes out, the wind enters; the lamps and the fire are lit; so that light fills windows and doors. The tables are set, there is the sound of footsteps; and more footsteps. The house glows and lives.
第四，无爱的生灵就象秋天的夜晚中一栋没有光亮的屋子,窗口黑暗，门窗紧闭，清新的风儿绕着它无法吹进。屋内沉闷的空气让人昏厥，渴望与外面清新的风儿汇集。这时，一位手持钥匙的佳人翩然而至,步入室内，推开窗,清风穿进；点亮灯，点燃炉，灯火照亮门窗。餐桌摆放停当,脚步声接踵而来，屋子开始弥漫起活力与生机。

One could please oneself by many more images; such as the white garment of feathers that the young swans put on in the spring: the young flowers opening out their cups to the Sun that fills them with his golden wine. All life is full of such images, because nature has ruled that love, energy, beauty, and joy are one.
　我们还可以想象出更多自己喜欢的意象，比如春天里小天鹅生长起的洁白羽毛；向着给自己注入金色琼浆的太阳开放的花蕾。所有的生命都充满了这样的意象，因为大自然裁定，爱、活力、美和愉悦浑然合一。

V. A last image only I would like to add because of the pleasure it has given me. On the north door of the Cathedral of Chartres there is a sculptured design, some six hundred years old, of God creating the birds. God is charming, quite young, not more than thirty-eight or so; He has a most sweet expression. Behind Him a little stands the Son, about seventeen, tall as He and very like Him, but beardless. He has the same sweetness of look, as though upon each countenance an ineffable smile were just dawning. The Father is holding something that time has broken in His hand; most likely it is a bird. What a fortunate moment! What a fortunate thought! No wonder they both look pleased. Never have the birds disappointed Him as have we, His ruder children. Every spring since then these small creatures praise Him, head turned skywards, for the joy of the beloved, for the secret nest.
我要补充的最后一个意象，是因为它曾经给我带来愉悦。沙特尔大教堂北门上的一个雕刻设计，有六百年之久,上面雕的是上帝造鸟。上帝很迷人，很年轻, 大概三十八岁左右，他表情甜美，身后站着天子，大约十七岁,和他一般高，跟他很相象,但没有胡子。他的脸上泛着同样甜美的神情，好像所有的表情中都呈现出一种不可言喻的微笑。天父正握着时间开辟于他手中的东西，很可能是一只鸟。多么幸运的时刻!多么吉利的主意!难怪他们看上去都很高兴。鸟儿从未像我们，他粗鲁的孩子一样，让他失望。从那以后，每到春天，这些小生灵便仰望长空，为心爱人儿的愉悦、为隐秘的鸟巢而赞美他。

Imagining and pondering, one is apt to grow a little wise; now perhaps we may say that love is a radiant atmosphere of the soul, a celestial energy, a fluid force.
想像与沉思,它能让我们变得更为明智。现在我们也许会说，爱是灵魂璀璨的氛围，是精妙的活力，是流动的力量。
 
This force, this energy is set running in the wide kingdom that is within us by some Spirit touch. A soft tumult takes place in the life within; waves on waves of joy, desire, grief, ecstasy begin to run, making a trembling music that often causes the whole body to shake and tremble too.
这力量,这活力被某种精神触觉所导引，在我们宽广的身体王国中奔跑。生活中，温软的骚动被拨动，愉悦、欲望、悲伤和狂喜开始交替涌起,奏起让全身心震颤的乐音。

I am in love with love; I do adore it;—from the smile on that rough fellow’s face as he talks to his dog, to the ardours of a St. Francis or a Joan of Arc. That bright creative flame, winged, conferring the gift of tongues, master of all music, of all joy, is the best thing we have of life.
我与爱相恋，我真的很爱慕它----从那粗汉与自己的狗儿聊天时脸上呈现的微笑之中,从他对某个圣弗兰西斯或圣女贞德的热忱之中。那光亮创新的火焰,圣灵所赐的口才，所有音乐、愉悦的主人，是我们从生活中获取的最佳赏赐。

There are a variety of resume formats to choose from. Select a format that highlights your skills and relevant experience to demonstrate how you best fit the job.

CHRONOLOGICAL RESUME
This format organizes your experience in reverse chronological order, with your most recent experience listed first. This is the format that is recommended for students and recent college graduates and is preferred by employers.

FUNCTIONAL RESUME
This format highlights your skill areas and emphasizes what you have done rather than when and where you did it. By beginning with a section of your most impressive skills, abilities, and accomplishments, the resume immediately places the emphasis where you want it, on how you best fit the job. This section is followed by an employment history section, written in the chronological format, that supports the statements made in the previous section

COMBINATION RESUME
This format combines the benefits of both the chronological AND the functional formats. By beginning with a section of your most impressive skills, abilities, and accomplishments, the resume immediately places the emphasis where you want it – on how you best fit the job. This section is followed by an employment history section, written in the chronological format, that supports the statements made in the previous section.

ELECTRONIC RESUME:
This format is the best resume format to email potential employers. By adding a keyword section, and utilizing a san-serif font, this alternate electronic resume format – often referred to as a Scannable format - is suitable for submitting to organizations that use scanning software to review resumes.

Resume Writing Tips

GATHERING INFORMATION
The Career Center in your university often has excellent resume guides for you to view to get ideas.
Print out the job description or posting of the job/internship you want.
Locate any of your past performance reviews
Locate your most current resume (if you have one).
Print out your most recent class list or transcript.

ORGANIZING YOUR JOB HISTORY
Make a chronological list of the jobs you have held
Make a list of your training and education relevant to the job
Identify and create action verb statements for the best of your
past job duties, relevant coursework and volunteer experience
(see Action Verb Statements section)

APPEARANCE
Preferred front size is 10-12 point; Your name should appear larger (14-16 point)
Choose a natural tone paper, white or off-white is best
One page is strongly preferred
Use standard fonts: Helvetica, Times, Palatino
Make effective use of spacing, margins, bolding on your page
Emphasize points with bullets, UPPER CASE, bold, Italics, and underlining.
Final copy shouId be laser printed

TIPS
Make good use of blank space - it can help isolate an important point you wish to emphasize
Select the format that highlights your strengths
Use present tense for current responsibilities; past tense for prior activities
Spell out the names of organizations and clubs
Write action verb statements to highlight your successes (see Action Verb Statements section)
Resumes should never be written in the first person, such as "I supervised and trained 2 employees"
Avoid using slang or trite expressions

PROOF IT
Use the spell checker on your computer to read for spelling and grammatical errors.
Such errors are the number one reason why a resume is thrown out.
Have your resume reviewed by another person.
(Career Center counselors, friends, family members, faculty, and staff)

DO NOT INCLUDE
Personal information (age, height, weight, sex, health status or personal photo)
Names of references or salary history
Falsified or inflated information

COMMON QUESTIONS

How do I write a resume if I've never had any work experience?
Don't under estimate the value of your educational experience!
Create an effective resume by highlighting your academic experiences and achievements. Your degree and related coursework are important qualifications that can meet the requirements for many entry-level professional positions. Activities might include related coursework, projects, presentations, volunteer experience.

I haven't worked because I've been so busy with my on campus activities!
Great! These activities count as experience, too. In fact, most of our On Campus Interview program recruiters tell us they look for extra-curricular experiences in a candidate. Your resume will focus on your accomplishments and responsibilities in your club or organization. On campus activities might include: student government, athletics, resident advisor, campus ministry, student newspaper, academic or cultural clubs, sorority or fraternity.

I have four years of volunteer experience but no REAL experience!
A paycheck is not proof of related experience. Your demonstrated skills and experience as a volunteer count just as much as any paid professional job. Help the reader to understand your responsibilities, as well as the impact, results and the contributions, you made in the volunteer positions(s) you held. Your volunteer experiences can usually be included under the Work Experience section of the resume. In turn, both unpaid internships and volunteer experiences, on or off campus, should be included on your resume.
Examples of such experiences are: Habitat for Humanity, Big Brother/ Big Sister,
American Red Cross, Associated Students, International Business Club, etc.

ACTION VERB STATEMENTS

An action verb statement describes accomplishments you have had in a variety of areas, including work, volunteer experience and related coursework. Your action verb statement doesn’t have to be a huge accomplishment, but it should show something that you are proud of while demonstrating that you can take action when the situation arises. Employers like action oriented people.

To write an effective action verb statement, follow these three steps:

PROBLEM, ACTION, RESULT (PAR)

1.PROBLEM or SITUATION: Identify the problem or situation that needs to be improved.
2.ACTION: Describe the action you took and what skills you used.
3.RESULT: Describe the result. Whenever possible, quantify your result with a number.

The following is an example:

Coordinated a walk for breast cancer which raised over $2,000

The action verb statement is effective because it identifies the situation (Breast Cancer Walk), it describes action (coordinated) and it describes a quantifiable result (raised over $2,000).

Examples of other action verb statements:

Designed homepage and electronic mail distribution list for local club and increased member participation at club events by 20%
Managed retail outlet and increased sales volume by 25% in the first six months
Promoted from sales associate to assistant manger within five months of initial hiring

REFERENCES

A reference list is a list of three to five people that will give a potential employer excellent reviews of your past performance. This list is always put on a separate page and only given out when asked by the employer. When an employer asks for it, it may mean that they are seriously considering you for the position.

A reference can come from a favorite professor that you have had and received a good grade from in his/her course, from a university staff member that has mentored you, a current or previous work supervisor, or a coworker that has experienced what it is like to work with you in a school or volunteer project.

You would need to include the following:
1. Mr./ Ms. Name of reference, Title
2. Company/Organization
3. Street Address
4. City, State, Zip Code
5. Phone number
6. Email

Add a brief description of your relationship with the reference and in what capacity he/she would be able to speak to your relevant past performance.

Example of reference:

Mr. Jack Brewer, Director of Customer Support
Jack Brewer Corporation
1000 Van Ness Blvd, SF, CA 94122
(415) 555-1212
Jack@brewer.com

Mr. Brewer was my direct supervisor at Jack Brewer Corporation. He can attest to my customer service skills and interest in continuous learning. Be sure to touch base with your references regularly throughout the job search process. Let them know what type of position you're aiming for as well as the organizations you have in mind. Help them think through what they should highlight about your skills and accomplishments so that it's clear that you fit the bill for the job you're interested in. Don’t forget to let your references know of your successful outcome and be sure to thank them profusely! References play a critical role in a successful job search.

• Set your target. While you should always keep your options open to compromise, you should also be sure to target exactly what you want in a job. A specific job hunt will be more efficient than a haphazard one.
• Schedule ample interviews. Use every possible method to get interviews -- answering ads, using search firms, contacting companies directly, surfing the Web, and networking. Even if a job is not perfect for you, every interview can be approached as a positive experience.
• Follow up! Even if someone does not hire you, write them a thank-you note for the interview. Then, some weeks later, send another brief letter to explain that you still have not found the perfect position and that you will be available to interview again if the original position you applied for -- or any other position, for that matter -- is open. Do this with every position you interview for, and you may just catch a break!
• Make it your full-time job. You can't find a job by looking sporadically. You have to make time for it. If you're unemployed and looking, devote as much time as you would to a full-time job. If you have a job while you're looking, figure out an organized schedule to maximize your searching time.
• Develop new skills. The time you'll spend looking for a new job can be used to acquire new skills that will make you more attractive to potential employers. Do volunteer work to gain expertise. If you need to earn money immediately, try to find a gig that will enhance your job search.
• Network vertically. In the research phase of your job hunt, talk to people who are on a level above you in your desired industry. They'll have some insights that people at your own level won't have, and will be in a good position to hire you or recommend you to be hired.
• Keep your spirits up. Looking for a job is one of the toughest things you will ever have to do. Maintain your confidence, stay persistent, and think positive, and eventually you will get a job that suits you.

It was many and many a year ago,
In a kingdom by the sea,
That a maiden there lived whom you may know
By the name of ANNABEL LEE;
And this maiden she lived with no other thought
Than to love and be loved by me.

I was a child and she was a child,
In this kingdom by the sea;
But we loved with a love that was more than love-
I and my Annabel Lee;
With a love that the winged seraphs of heaven
Coveted her and me.

And this was the reason that, long ago,
In this kingdom by the sea,
A wind blew out of a cloud, chilling
My beautiful Annabel Lee;
So that her highborn kinsman came
And bore her away from me,
To shut her up in a sepulchre
In this kingdom by the sea.

The angels, not half so happy in heaven,
Went envying her and me-
Yes!- that was the reason (as all men know,
In this kingdom by the sea)
That the wind came out of the cloud by night,
Chilling and killing my Annabel Lee.

But our love it was stronger by far than the love
Of those who were older than we-
Of many far wiser than we-
And neither the angels in heaven above,
Nor the demons down under the sea,
Can ever dissever my soul from the soul
Of the beautiful Annabel Lee.

For the moon never beams without bringing me dreams
Of the beautiful Annabel Lee;
And the stars never rise but I feel the bright eyes
Of the beautiful Annabel Lee;
And so, all the night-tide, I lie down by the side
Of my darling- my darling- my life and my bride,
In the sepulchre there by the sea,
In her tomb by the sounding sea.

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In CONGRESS, July 4, 1776

The unanimous Declaration of the thirteen united States of America,

When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature's God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. --That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, --That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shewn, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security. —Such has been the patient sufferance of these Colonies; and such is now the necessity which constrains them to alter their former Systems of Government. The history of the present King of Great Britain [George III] is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations, all having in direct object the establishment of an absolute Tyranny over these States. To prove this, let Facts be submitted to a candid world.

He has refused his Assent to Laws, the most wholesome and necessary for the public good.

He has forbidden his Governors to pass Laws of immediate and pressing importance, unless suspended in their operation till his Assent should be obtained; and when so suspended, he has utterly neglected to attend to them.

He has refused to pass other Laws for the accommodation of large districts of people, unless those people would relinquish the right of Representation in the Legislature, a right inestimable to them and formidable to tyrants only.

He has called together legislative bodies at places unusual, uncomfortable, and distant from the depository of their public Records, for the sole purpose of fatiguing them into compliance with his measures.

He has dissolved Representative Houses repeatedly, for opposing with manly firmness his invasions on the rights of the people.

He has refused for a long time, after such dissolutions, to cause others to be elected; whereby the Legislative powers, incapable of Annihilation, have returned to the People at large for their exercise; the State remaining in the mean time exposed to all the dangers of invasion from without, and convulsions within.

He has endeavoured to prevent the population of these States; for that purpose obstructing the Laws for Naturalization of Foreigners; refusing to pass others to encourage their migrations hither, and raising the conditions of new Appropriations of Lands.

He has obstructed the Administration of Justice, by refusing his Assent to Laws for establishing Judiciary powers.

He has made Judges dependent on his Will alone, for the tenure of their offices, and the amount and payment of their salaries.

He has erected a multitude of New Offices, and sent hither swarms of Officers to harass our people, and eat out their substance.

He has kept among us, in times of peace, Standing Armies without the consent of our legislatures.

He has affected to render the Military independent of and superior to the Civil power.

He has combined with others to subject us to a jurisdiction foreign to our constitution and unacknowledged by our laws; giving his Assent to their Acts of pretended Legislation:

For Quartering large bodies of armed troops among us:

For protecting them, by a mock Trial, from punishment for any Murders which they should commit on the Inhabitants of these States:

For cutting off our Trade with all parts of the world:

For imposing Taxes on us without our Consent:

For depriving us, in many cases, of the benefits of Trial by Jury:

For transporting us beyond Seas to be tried for pretended offences:

For abolishing the free System of English Laws in a neighbouring Province, establishing therein an Arbitrary government, and enlarging its Boundaries so as to render it at once an example and fit instrument for introducing the same absolute rule into these Colonies:

For taking away our Charters, abolishing our most valuable Laws, and altering fundamentally the Forms of our Governments:

For suspending our own Legislatures, and declaring themselves invested with power to legislate for us in all cases whatsoever.

He has abdicated Government here, by declaring us out of his Protection and waging War against us.

He has plundered our seas, ravaged our Coasts, burnt our towns, and destroyed the lives of our people.

He is at this time transporting large Armies of foreign Mercenaries to compleat the works of death, desolation and tyranny, already begun with circumstances of Cruelty and perfidy scarcely paralleled in the most barbarous ages, and totally unworthy the Head of a civilized nation.

He has constrained our fellow Citizens taken Captive on the high Seas to bear Arms against their Country, to become the executioners of their friends and Brethren, or to fall themselves by their Hands.

He has excited domestic insurrections amongst us, and has endeavoured to bring on the inhabitants of our frontiers, the merciless Indian Savages, whose known rule of warfare, is an undistinguished destruction of all ages, sexes and conditions.

In every stage of these Oppressions We have Petitioned for Redress in the most humble terms: Our repeated Petitions have been answered only by repeated injury. A Prince whose character is thus marked by every act which may define a Tyrant, is unfit to be the ruler of a free people.

Nor have We been wanting in attentions to our British brethren. We have warned them from time to time of attempts by their legislature to extend an unwarrantable jurisdiction over us. We have reminded them of the circumstances of our emigration and settlement here. We have appealed to their native justice and magnanimity, and we have conjured them by the ties of our common kindred to disavow these usurpations, which, would inevitably interrupt our connections and correspondence. They too have been deaf to the voice of justice and of consanguinity. We must, therefore, acquiesce in the necessity, which denounces our Separation, and hold them, as we hold the rest of mankind, Enemies in War, in Peace Friends.

We, therefore, the Representatives of the united States of America, in General Congress, Assembled, appealing to the Supreme Judge of the world for the rectitude of our intentions, do, in the Name, and by the Authority of the good People of these Colonies, solemnly publish and declare, That these United Colonies are, and of Right ought to be Free and Independent States; that they are Absolved from all Allegiance to the British Crown, and that all political connection between them and the State of Great Britain, is and ought to be totally dissolved; and that as Free and Independent States, they have full Power to levy War, conclude Peace, contract Alliances, establish Commerce, and to do all other Acts and Things which Independent States may of right do. And for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our Lives, our Fortunes and our sacred Honor.